Friday, May 24, 2013

Congratulations, BSA. Now let's keep going.



On Thursday, May 23, Boy Scouts of America decided to lift a ban on openly gay scouts that had been in place throughout the organization’s 103-year history.
I'm pleased that the BSA decided to approve the measure to lift the ban on gay scouts. Like the steps the Mormon Church has taken in recent months, it is encouraging to see movement in the right direction.
One of my favorite life lessons I learned from a fictional character, Atticus Finch from "To Kill a Mockingbird." Atticus, you'll recall, was the white attorney who represented black defendants in an Alabama murder trial. The lesson I learned from Atticus Finch was that change happens incrementally. As much as we'd like to believe humanity is wise and kind enough to right decades (and sometimes centuries) of wrongdoing with a single grand event, it just doesn't happen that way. While I believe humanity will always make progress, it will be progress in spirals. Progress and change are a process--and with this victory we can clearly see that the process has begun.
Yet, still embedded into Scouting policy and culture is the message that as a gay youth, you might be okay when you're young, but rejection is imminent. And as we now know, profound evidence-based research done by The Family Acceptance Project tells us rejection is the leading risk factor for LGBT youth when it comes to health issues, including depression and suicide.
Moreover, because gay leaders would be banned from working with youth, there is a message here confusing being gay with pedophilia, and once again, science has borne out that those are two very different things. It’s as if Boy Scouts of America believes that while we might be marginally acceptable as youth, upon our 18th birthday a magical switch is flipped transforming us from being part of the family of humanity and into sexual predators.

So like Atticus Finch, let's recognize the goodness here--that we are indeed moving in the right direction. But let's not confuse taking a step in the right direction with completing the journey.

7 comments:

  1. Atticus is one of my favorite characters as well. Thanks for pointing out the good in the direction.

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  2. Are you "ok" with the LDS church saying they have "always" welcomed gay youth?

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    1. Love that they say it. Wish there were more action behind those words--I see rejection of LGBT youth all the time. It is very difficult for an LGBT youth to grow up with a happy, healthy self-image inside most wards and stakes in our church. If our actions were as welcoming as our words, that would not be the case.

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    2. I would say that "words" are the "ideal." "People" don't always behave in "ideal" ways--or live the teaching of the church. We all have lots to learn when it comes to "walking the talk." BUT, I do agree that the church has the same standards for ALL of its Scouts.

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  3. I would like to make a difference in my ward/stake. My 13 year old grandson bravely emerged from the closet recently. My son and I actually met you at the conference in AZ. Any suggestions?

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    1. Of course. Email me and I can help! mitchmayne@gmail.com. And I have to say, it's amazingly wonderful you're asking this--we need more like you! Thank you!

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  4. Thanks for your perspective, Mitch. You said it better than I could have stated it.

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